“A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.”
Rejection. In life, everyone will be stung by the rejection bug at one point or the other, regardless of their status! FACT!
Establish this one truth, YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM! People reject others for different reasons, and you cannot control people’s emotions and how they react to life. We still live in a world coloured by prejudices of varying hues. Even if someone is downright rude, nasty or annoying, we all could learn to be more gracious to help them become better than rejection. It just might be you handing out the rejection pill to someone someday!
So you were rejected…
Don’t own the impending flood of negative adjectives that peddle rejection. Don’t let them define you. Stop them before they camp in your thoughts and become who you see. You can with the right attitude.
Without belittling the real, raw wound, it is not the end of the world. Look at it this way, it is an opportunity for refinement. Allow it to make you better, not bitter. Don’t spend too long mourning the loss of your self-esteem. More than anything, it is our self-esteem that takes the hardest bashing. Instead of sour grapes and revenge, take a long hard look in the mirror, the Word of God, if what you see is not the true image of who you were created to be, adjust yourself. You may even look right, let that be a comfort.
More than anything, it is our self-esteem that takes the hardest bashing. Instead of sour grapes and revenge, take a long hard look in the mirror, the Word of God, if what you see is not the true image of who you were created to be, adjust yourself. You may even look right, let that be a comfort. Only allow yourself to walk away from the experience determined to build people up than tear them down.
I have learned that there is a lesson in every experience, good or bad.
The rejection pill is never an easy one to swallow. I remember when I had to swallow one that had the potential to be bitter.
Was it hard? Mmmmm … It wasn’t too hurtful.
I wrote an organization, that I so longed to blog with, in the hope of being accepted as a guest blogger. I was rejected! Though they did not word their response to come across as rejection. Their note evoked inspiration. Grace spilled from their words. I felt built up than torn down. This is an example of how to say no if someone is not a fit for you.
The episode led me to enroll in a writing mentorship program – BLAST, where the mantra “develop a thick skin” could not have been overemphasized. I began to pay attention to my writing and improve my craft. I did not saunter into writing, it is a calling for me. It would be cowardly to give up because of that one instance of rejection. I know many more will come!
You have a life to live. You are passionate about what you carry on your inside, who you are, but you just may not be someone else’s cup of tea. Not because something is wrong with you, maybe you’re just not their kind of person. And surely, that’s ok.
Does that mean you’re not good enough? No. It only means there’s more room for your growth. Become the best you that can be. A more expanded version of you that makes room for others. Learn to quickly forgive and move on. Step on those rejection stones, rise higher and become better at what you do or who you were meant to become.
Holding grudges only fester the poison. They, most likely, may not even care what happens to you or remember you thereafter. Someone described it as “drinking rat poison and hoping the rat dies.” You’re the only one carrying the hurt and the pain. You do not need that toxicity in your life.
Step on those rejection stones, rise higher and
become better at what you do or who you were meant
to become. -Bosede Santos
I wrote back to the organization, thanked them for their kindness and I craved the indulgence of their time to shed more light on their reasons for the rejection.
You have been called for a special reason and season, and God will connect you to those who will help you grow and get to the next level of your life purpose. I know. It’s happening to people I know. God is setting them up to take them to the next level! Amazing set-up stories I read and hear. ‘God-winks’ (got that from Gail Hyatt)
People are rising up every day, following their dreams. No rejection should stop you from being all that you were born to be in this life. God has a plan and purpose for every life, and He will surely equip you when you submit to His will
Go on, press in! Pull yourself together, mount that horse and ride in victory to your winning life as you:
- Review – Look at the circumstance surrounding the episode. Be real and objective; assess without sentiments. That’s the only way you can become better.
- Reposition – When you have objectively identified what you may have contributed to the rejection, make the necessary mental and emotional adjustments. Apologize if you need to. If it is obvious that they have the issue, take the high road, forgive.
- Replace – For every negativity, there is a positive. Replace the negative adjectives through which you might naturally process the hurt and pain with positive ones. Always remember, you are the image of a perfect God. He took His time to form you. You are special no matter what.
- Regain – Recover your morale and with the insight gained from your repositioning, get back to doing life as a new and improved version of you. Don’t empower anyone to stop your destiny!
… but those who trust in the Lord will renew their strength; they will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31 HCSB)
*How have you coped with rejection lately? How did it turn around for your good? How did you grow through it?